Everything changes
with time. The change can either be quick, coming as a shock or it can come
slowly without you even realizing anything is different. I'm sure even if you
are not human, there are sometimes when you are in a crowd but you feel so
alone, times when there are so many people with you but you feel like the world
is against you or the feeling that no one understands you or cares about you. Believe
me; I know just how it feels. You feel like whatever forces controlling the universe
are against you being happy or content.
This is simple known
as being insecure. Everyone feels this way from time to time and has his/her
own way of assuring him/herself that the person is worth something, or just
gets angry at the world till he or she gets over the feeling of insignificance
or loneliness. Being insecure is normal and you shouldn't feel bad about being insecure from time to time.
What most people do is
change, become someone completely unlike the person who they really are. This could
make you feel better for awhile but after some time you’ll feel even worse than
the way you felt before your ‘change’. You will also feel the need to change anything about you that the people around you want to change, and this is just not right.
I have come to realize that the only way to completely get over the feeling and move on with life with
nothing holding you back is to address the source and cause of the feeling. Sometime
it feels like there is no cause, and that you are just a victim of the world
cruelty or an object which is meant to be sued by others whenever the wish to
use you. The only way to get over this feeling completely is to gain self
confidence/respect and stop looking for everyone’s approval (some peoples approval
are important and you will need to seek them), just the selected few which you
actually need to move forward in life.
Identify the source of
the problem and confront it, confronting it could be either talking to someone
you trust (who can give good advice) about the source of your problem (if the
source is not alive) or talking to the person who is the source of your problem.
In both case you should talk about everything related to the matter which is
bothering you, not leaving out any details and then together with the person,
come up solution. Sometime just finding out the reason and advising yourself
gets rid of that horrible feeling.
Just remember that no
matter what, you are never truly alone. There are people all around who care
even if you don’t know them, so never give up on living the life which you are meant
to live as the amazing, secure and confident person you are meant to be.
"Forgetting is painful. But not doing anything is extending your suffering."
Anne Hathaway
