Hurt and Pain

What actually is bulling? What is “Bulling” beyond its usual meaning? Bulling is not only using superior strength or influence to intimidate someone or just to force him/her to do what you want. Bulling is simply trying to break a person’s spirit, trying to change a person’s behaviour or simply hurting someone intentionally.  Beating someone and leaving them all alone creates the same feeling as when someone is constantly verbally abused, mocked and criticized. The only difference between the two is, physical pain will leave without any effort, but emotional pain takes a lot of both physical and mental effort to get over completely. Think about it, you don't remember how many times you have been physically injured but you remember the times you have been insulted, verbally abused or mocked, I can even bet sometimes you just sit down and think about all the things people have said to you.

One thing most people forget often is, WORDS CAN REALLY HURT PEOPLE! It’s so sad when you see a eight year old kid sitting alone and staring at the ground whiles his/her class mates are running about happily, it’s even more heart breaking when you ask the kid what is wrong and the kid goes like,"(Insert friends name here) said (insert mean comment)."

So what gives someone the right to bully others? What if you are white, black, Asian,Christian, Atheist or Moslem, what if you are disables, orphaned, stinky, abnormally smart, young for their class group, not so bright or have weird teeth, that still doesn't give you the right to bully someone and it definitely shouldn't make a person an open target for bullies.

Whenever you see someone looking like the weight of the world is on the person’s shoulders it’s sad and it could mean a lot of things. When that look is caused by the person being bullied it means no one has leant a helping hand to that person, the help the person was given was not enough help or the person lacks moral support. When a person is bullied for a long time and there is no one to help them through it, they begin to feel unwanted and useless. 

Everyone gets the feeling that the world is against them once in a while, so imagine someone having this feeling all the time. When you think or see someone in this mood, it might have been cause by a comment made about the person or the way the person is being treated. I advise that you try to help the person in any possible way you can, that way if you are in the person’s shoes, you know there is someone who will most likely help you.

The Quote: “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

This Quote apply to just a small number of people. Words can cut deep; any form of verbal abuse can hurt someone. Giving someone the silent treatment, Name-Calling, Taunting gossiping, insulting and the list goes on and on, are different ways to verbally abuse someone.

“When people hurt you over and over again, think of them like sandpaper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless.”-Chris Colfer

If are being bullied and you handle it right, it can make you a really strong person. No one likes being put sown so let’s try not to put other down, lend a helping hand when you can and put a smile on someone’s face.